As i was lying down on my bed, again i thought of stupid things. i mean this has become almost a trait of me. thinking of ridiculous silly things while trying to rouse myself to sleep. i thought about the relationships i have had and also my whole life especially my childhood. so suddenly a bright (or dim depending which angle u look at it) spark comes to my head. i will try to draw up a list of the top 10 most influential and important person of my life of all time in an unabiased view. there will be an explanation of why he/she deserve this ranking.
ranking start from 10 than to 1 which is the most important.
xy, dh, tri, mom, dad, jolin, sis, aunt, jie, weicai, ms lim, adrian, kuba, spencer, char, ms gan, grandma, jiacong, liting, vball coach, xw, weiliang, atk, mk
, mr o, foo zz, daphne, joan etc.. these are the guys that make the short list.. tough choice..
10- draw between ms gan (my mgt teacher) and my 2nd aunt
This is really a tough choice. couldnt have possibly leave out either of them without feeling guilty and queasy.
Ms gan is my teacher in oi. she was the first person that i have to report when i transferred from tp. being new and foreign, she took me under her wings and i had blossomed under her tutorlage ever since. mgt is my top subject and which i excel in. mrs lim was the one who inspired interest but ms gan was the person that fine tuned it. i doubt i could make it to uni without her. was extremely down after my gp paper and wanted to give up taking or learning the rest of the papers. she scolded n chided me and bring me to 3 yrs ago when i first entered oi. taunted, comfort, scold and pressurised me into actions. luckily for me, i eventually did not give up. she played a huge part in this. now even though i am not longer taught by her, she remains a valuable mentor and even client of my work.
2nd aunt was like my second mother in fact. when i was young, my parents were working. she was my caretaker and watch me grow. first under her when she was still residing in sim ming road and then to yishun st 72. she literally groomed me to who i am and what i am today. she plays a huge part in my maturing.
9- weicai (my cousin)
He is the elder brother i never had. when i was young, his mom took care of me and watch me grow. he was my playmate and confidant when young. being mature and rational, he is the role model i tried to base myself upon to no avail. i just cant be as strong as him. he introduced me to work in Ponderosa where my first stint there was the best in my working life. he also introduced me to sports like table tennis, basketball and soccer. my childhood spent with him and the rest of my cousins could be considered a major highlight of my life. given a chance, i would really want to turn back time when the 5 of us catch guppies and spiders, light candles and lanterns during mooncake festival and play games together. the only drawback is as we get older, we inevitably lead our own lifes as he pursued his career while im still in uni. still a vital part of my life though. had being and always will be.
8- Jolin (my niece)
The apple of my eyes and who always brought a smile to my face. my harbour in the storm and when im in poland, she is the one i miss most. when i am down, i always took out my hp and look at the video clips i made of her or the numerous pictures i have of her. she is always cute though a little irritating at times but her funny and extremely adorable antics lead me to really cherish her and her adored barney the dinosaur which is my present to her. if i have to have a kid in the future, let it be someone as cute as her.
7- tuan kiat (atk, study mate at oi and smu)
This is a tough choice. atk is a superb buddy. not the most fashionable to have around but by far the most reliable one. no complaints about this guy. my times in oi is the best of my education life. so much fun and joy. he is part of my memories there. remember thrashing him in mgt in yr 1 then saw him revert the role on me the next yr. top notch student who taught me so much. my study partner in smu without which i would not have make it so far. he is simply worth his weight in gold to me and i hope he will always be my buddy.
6- Charmaine
Was with her for merely 2 months and 6 days but it was the most magical days of my entire life. she was the person i have loved most in my entire life. the day she left me, i was left with an empty physique with my soul gone. a huge part of my life have left me. she completed me.. we are no longer and will never be together. however she left something in my heart. she etched her name and left memories in me that no one will ever take away. she was the one who let me understand the true bliss of life and what love could do to the person. do not want to blame her but after her, most girls seem mediocre and i could not really like. she makes me determined that i will NOT make another mistake in my love life and not to accept anything lesser than true love and bliss.
5- Tricia
If charmaine is the person i had loved most, tricia must be the person that i first start to love. together with her for exactly 1 yr and 1 day. this is also my longest relationship to date. maybe our love was doomed to fail from the beginning. my life was literally revolved around her. our quarrels drained my life out of me but not even in a split second did i doubt either our love for each other. i literally died for her as close friends would have known. she make me realised how scary and how dependant i had become. the split was acriminous but our relationship will forever stays with me too. still recalled our nicknames for each other. she was both the lighthouse and storm of during that period of my life. she is ranked this high also due to the fact she make me a much stronger man. without her, i doubt i could have survived the breakup with char.. my experience with tricia galvanised me into a much stronger being (not that im very strong now anyway).
4- Xiao yan
Definitely my best buddy of all time. she is also the person that introduced tricia to me. known her for 12 years and running. my pillar of strength when im down, my ray of laughter when im bored and many others. had 3 major arguments with her that last for months. famed for being stubborn and terribly myopic during quarrels (its never her fault..) but one thing no one can ever blame her is her wholeheartedness into any friendship. never pretentious and always generous, i considered meeting her a real blessing. she is the friend that i will most likely keep in touch for the rest of our life.
3- Jie
She is the elder sister i never had. elder sister of weicai and the mom of the sooo adorable jolin. she took tremendous care of me when i was under the care of her mom. always caring about me whether i got enough money and stuffs. most vivid incident. i landed in hospital due to a stupid incident with tricia. ok past history. when i was discharged, she was with me in my room. she held my hand and was weeping. she was heavily pregnant then. she told me something that will change my life. she said its not my life only. its about everyone who cares about me. dying is actually the easiest for me and the worst for everyone. i shouldnot be so selfish. she also told me that inspite of my parents seemingly indifference, my mom was crying and did not let me know. i do not fear death but i fear letting down those who cares for me and she was the one who pointed this out to me.
2- Dad
Quite obvious choice. my dad is someone who make enormous sacrifices for the well being of the whole family. working till late and toiling in construction sites, he has my utmost respect. never once to miss a day of work even when sick, u literally have to beg him to stay home even if he is very ill from fever. fiercely dedicated to his work and a total family man. dont really hang around with friends after work and will return home to the save encave of home. hobbies include watching animal planets and documentaries, going out with mom, aunts and the lots and playing with jolin. a complete dad who will have no qualms or complaints about sacrificing for his loved one. did not even keep any of his pay but prefer to let my mom settle the housekeep with his whole pay. and of course the person who lend me his car inspite of me crashing it numerous times.
1- Mom
Surely the number 1 place will be reserved for her. not a slight to my dad but my mom just perhaps edge it due to me spending more time with her (but just slightly). took care of the whole household and keep every thing in check. truly love her kids though proned to occasional emotional outbursts. she and my dad is extremely proud of the fact im in uni. cook the most delicious (but also the worst when she cooked those hateful fishes and some vegs which i absolutely abhor) food. always worrying for the family and the image of her crying before i leave for my exchange is a testimont of her love for me. truly a great mom and nothing i can complained about. always remind me when im old and working, i have to take care of her and dad. she need not worry. they are irreplaceable and will always be top rankings in my heart.
