jolin

Called my mom today. she told me my beloved niece-jolin had being really eccentric recently. crying and beating her new younger brother for no apparant reasons. she even tried to tell my parents that someone may have hit her in school. i dont know why but it seriously pains me when i heard of that.. i know even if another kid hit out at her in school, it more probably a case of "child's play". but this does not diminsh the fact she is still young and need to be protected.

I guess the adults gave her less credit than due. she is prolly jealous that a new baby is in the house. lets not forget for a moment that she is still young. in fact she is still a toddler. we should never expect her to be indifferent to the new addition. all the attentions used to be showered on her. a cry will brought about a mad scrampering to find means to please her. a fall would see many rushing to pacify her, to coach her.. now even though she is still very much loved by us, she is no longer the ONLY person to be fuss about.

Many a years ago when my sister was first conceived, i was really mad too. i still can recalled that in the months preceeding my sister's birth, i was excited like everyone else. to me she will become a new play thing or at least a play mate of mine and this will alleviate the bordom i was plagued with. however oh boy was i wrong. when she entered this brand new world, everyone was soon gushing how cute, how adorable she is. i was left alone. my attempts to carry her are usually futile as being young, boyish and rough, i would inevitably hurt her. soon i start to abhor this new addition to my family.

I resent the fact that every one is fussing around her. i was older and therefore not so much in vogue. i hated that. feeling obstracised, i hated my sister then. i used to tell my family friends they could have her if so desired. of course (thankfully), it didnt materialise. i was 5 years old then.

Fast forward to the present situation. jolin is barely 3 years old. she should be basking in the complete attention showered on her. now she not only has to complete for attention, praises and laughters, she is also transferred to a nursery as my mom couldnt handle 2 kids. in her small fragile heart, she must be feeling very very upset.. alot of us may think young kids couldnt think but we are wrong. they do think. being exposed to love and attention lead to us craving for more. we cannot expect a young toddler to be altruistic and share the love with her younger brother. she dont think that way. how i wish im by her side now.. she is the person i missed most in spore..

Of course as she gets older, she will appreciate this new addition. but now is not the time to expect her to welcome her brother without reservations. i hope the adults can understand this and not blame her when she tried to hit her brother for "no apparant reason". there is a reason and i suspect is to fight for attention. she will learn in times to come this is wrong. i know. i was once like her..

This of course also vindicate my belief that i should only have 1 child in the future. in this way, he/she will be the numero uno in my eyes and i can shower on the child my fullest attention. to be honest i wanted to go overseas to study in the past. but not everyone is born with a silver spoon. if i had taken the chance to go abroad, my siblings would surely not have the opportunity to do so. my dad would prolly be worked to death. luckily i got into a local varsity.. if i only had 1 child, he/she will enjoy everything i possess. no sharing is required. this i suspect will be more beneficial to the child. as for potential playmate? she can have my wife and myself. and most likely a pup or 2..